There is something very pointed about this question. The demand to know what you truly want removes all the outside voices and puts you / me in the front and center. Yet it stings and is often avoided, dodged, and ignored by any who hear the question.

It is so, because it puts down the hammer on our procrastination around those pursuits we truly desire. Think about that for a moment.

Pursuits we TRULY desire — do you know what that is? 

Procrastination — why are our goals delayed infinitely?

Make a list and check it twice

It is perfect timing that I am reflecting on this in December. Having believed deeply in writing down goals and achieving them, the idea of this exercise appealed to me. This list though is different. It is a list entirely for me. My spirit, my experiences, my joy, and such.

I heard about the group of kids that went around knocking things off their bucket list over the past 10 years and it is a great story. A reminder that when we focus on what we REALLY want, and we include others, it is achievable.

How to do what you love, before you die

So — complete the following:

Make a list of things you WANT / TO DO before you die. The items can change, this is the today you.

Now pick one that you MOST WANT, now that one is our obsession, and here is what we do:

  • Everyday write it down as your goal in your morning journal
  • Everyday someone asks what are you working on/ what’s up — you share your goal
  • Anytime you are with friends, ask if they KNOW ANYONE who can help you with your goal
  • Focus on the WHO and the HOW, not the when or why … 
  • Work towards doing it, take time off, meet people, and be persistent, patient, but also intentional

You are going to die

Act accordingly. 

Don’t dilly, dally, dawdle, or neglect this gift we have to be alive. 

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